An Asian American student of Japanese heritage explained her reluctance to participate in feminist organizations by calling attention to the tendency among feminist activists to speak rapidly without pause, to be quick on the uptake, always ready with a response. She had been raised to pause and think before speaking, to consider the impact of one’s words, a characteristic that she felt was particularly true of Asian Americans. She expressed feelings of inadequacy on the various occasions she was present in feminist groups. In our class, we learned to allow pauses and appreciate them. By sharing this cultural code, we created an atmosphere in the classroom that allowed for different communication patterns.
This particular class was peopled primarily by black women. Several white women students complained that the atmosphere was “too hostile.” They cited the noise level and direct confrontations that took place in the room prior to class as an example of this hostility. Our response was to explain that what they perceived as hostility and aggression, we considered playful teasing and affectionate expressions of our pleasure at being together. Our tendency to talk loudly we saw as a consequence of being in a room with many people speaking, as well as of cultural background: many of us were raised in families where individuals speak loudly. In their upbringings as white, middle-class females, the complaining students had been taught to identify loud and direct speech with anger. We explained that we did not identify loud or blunt speech in this way, and encourage them to switch codes, to think of it as an affirming gesture. Once they switched codes, they not only began to have a more creative, joyful experience in the class, but they also learned that silence and quiet speech can in some cultures indicate hostility and aggression. By learning one another’s cultural codes and respecting our differences, we felt a sense of community, of Sisterhood. Representing diversity does not mean uniformity or sameness. Bell Hooks, Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center (pages 57-58)
Let the record reflect the conclusive result of empirical research spanning 27 studies from 10 countries: healthy eating is fucking expensive and people who deny this reality are annoying and full of shit.
e’rybody’s all like “fandom’s where i found community and understanding and happiness’
and i’m in the corner like “fandom’s where i found my high blood pressure and an insatiable urge for murder”
The direction that Del Toro gave to Rob Kazinsky for the “That’s my son,” scene. (via libertinem)
#OH GOD#OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD#BUT THE THING IS HE DOES KNEEL#TO MAX#DOWN ON ONE KNEE HEAD BOWED TENDERLY SPEAKING TO THE ONE LIVING SOUL WHO ACTS AS THE HANSENS’ EMOTIONAL STAND-IN FOR EACHOTHER#HE DOES KNEEEEEL#HOW DO I FIT THIS NEW REVELATION INTO MY PITIFUL EXISTENCE (tags by vrabia)
The context for this quote in the podcast was in reference to Max, and Kazinsky concluded by saying “the dog was Chuck Hansen’s soul”.
Please excuse me. I need to find more sobbing reaction GIFs.
I literally just made a noise like a dying animal.
BOOBS ARE LITERALLY LUMPS WITH SMALLER LUMPS ON TOP WHAT IS SO SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE ABOUT A LUMP!!!!
What is sexually attractive about any human body part really? Penises are just tubes with lumps connected to them. Asses are also just lumps. Your face is just a collection of different types of lumps and there’s a hole on it. Everything is just a lump. I can’t get off to this. Now, a rhombus, that’s something I could fuck the shit out of.